Friday Five - No One Is Driving That Car!

 Friday Five - No One Is Driving That Car!

We left temps in the low 70's, and landed smack in the middle of the humid high-80's over here in Georgia. But we're having a great time!

1.  We have walked and walked in Atlanta, and life is good. We've been averaging six miles a day, which is enough miles to feel great, offset our once a day meal splurge, and ensure we sleep like logs. 

2.  We're enjoying all the wonderful food things.  So far we've sampled fried green tomatoes, fried chicken, mashed potatoes, turnip greens, cornbread, biscuits, and peach cobbler (my spouse). We've shared most meals, my preferred way to dine when traveling in that we can't take leftovers home. And while I want to enjoy delicious food for my main meal, I don't want an overwhelming amount. It's worked out well, and our servers have generally been suggesting it in advance of our asking, or been quickly supportive when we inquire. Which has been lovely.

3. We've enjoyed chatting with our servers. We so enjoy viewing snippets of what life where we are visiting is like, and our restaurant servers often provide a terrific mirror with which to do so. Because we tend to eat quite early, restaurants are usually quiet when we arrive, and our servers have had time to briefly chat. I love to hear what brought them to an area, and how they are enjoying it. We experience delightful, quick little conversations so often as a result.

And we get in-return thoughts, often stereotypical, about our home state of California as well, which I actually appreciate. Yesterday, as an example, we were chatting with our server about the rise in popularity of mock-tails among young people, and the affect that was having on the bar and restaurant business. She said that something called 'Cali-sober' was increasingly a thing among her peer group. When we looked at her quizically, she said, 'You know, no alcohol, just that other 'thing' instead". It took a moment, and then we all broke into laughter.  

That is what I love most about travel - the little slice of life moments we get to experience.

4. We're seeing all the tourist stuff, and I'm 100% OK with that.  Because that's exactly what we are! Self-mocking aside, our preference to walk everywhere does tend to put us along side local residents, and that is when we are prone to get a glimpse of what life for locals is like in whatever area we're visiting. But I'm equally OK with being a tourist, because the big stuff is what generally brings us to an area in the first place.

The city of Atlanta as reflected in the lake at Piedmont Park.

Our visit to The World Of Coca Cola was a whole lot of fun.

Our spontaneous visit to the Federal Reserve Bank of Atlanta Museum, located just across the street from our hotel, was not only free to enter, but so, so interesting.  

And where we picked up the best souvenirs of our trip - small packets of shredded currency, also free! We picked up one packet for each of our granddaughters.

The home of Martin Luther King, Jr, was unfortunately closed for repairs during our trip. We did, however get to visit the MLK National Historic Park, where Dr King and his wife, Coretta Scott King, are laid to rest.

5. We have enjoyed seeing all the Waymo self driving vehicles and the self propelling delivery rolling carts that are all over this city. Because we live in the 'burbs, these techno self-driving cars and carts haven't made it our way yet. So, it was lots of fun to see so many of them out and about every day as we walked around the city.

There is no driver in that car if you look closely!

Some of the self propelling delivery carts even have names. So cute!

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So much already seen and visited, and we still have Savannah and Nashville to go!

Friday Five - Summer Is Here!

 Friday Five - Summer Is Here!

1. I took my mom clothes shopping and we ended up 'twin-ing' each other. I think about 50% of our purchases were identical, primarily the multiple pair of flowing, lightweight summer pants we both purchased. I don't really mind, as long as we don't wear the same outfit to the same event - that would definitely be a bridge to far! 😄

I bought this entire outfit, but there is no waist gap in mine!
My stomach may be flat, but it is no longer a 20 or even a 30 year old stomach, and absolutely no one needs to see it!

This ensemble is so pretty and comfortable.
And it will be perfect for our upcoming trip to already-hot-and-humid Georgia.

2. I spent several days in a row in one of our local beach towns, noshing, sipping, people watching and enjoying glorious weather. I had a slew of activities over the course of the week in one of our adjacent beach towns, that included several lunch and coffee dates. And our currently spectacular weather made each one especially enjoyable. We have not yet been socked-in with our seasonal grey - the grey has been clearing each day before lunch. So, clear blue skies combined with temps in the low to mid 70's has made for some days that seem designed for enjoying life while sitting outside in the sunshine.

3. I love that live events are such a big part of our lifestyle now. We attended four live events this past week - a jazz concert, a Broadway musicals tribute, a play, and a summer outdoor concert. Not only do we enjoy the shows, the energy, and our fellow attendees, my spouse and I also enjoy great follow-up discussions, generally over a post-event dinner. 

We prefer matinee performances whenever possible for just this reason. It’s so nice to move on to a leisurely meal without the pressure to be sure and finish up and pay before our event begins.

4.  I made an improvised pasta dinner one night, and it turned out fabulous. I cubed and sauteed one large chicken breast half in some olive oil, after first seasoning with some kosher salt and fresh ground peppercorns. I set the finished chicken aside and next sauteed a basket of sliced mushrooms and half a diced red onion. I re-added the chicken, plus some artichoke hearts, and tossed with some pesto from my freezer and a bit of heavy cream that was leftover from a recent party. I served it over some penne pasta and topped with a sprinkling of freshly grated Parmesan cheese. My husband took one bite and said he loved it, and would I please tell him there was more? 

A list of items always in my fridge or pantry for these type of impromptu dinners:

• Artichoke hearts
• Sundried tomatoes
• Kalamata olives
• Capers
• Fresh Parmesan cheese
• Pasta (all sorts)
• Good quality olive oil
• Kosher salt
• Black peppercorns

Any combination of the above, tossed with whatever vegetables need to be used up, plus a bit of protein from the freezer - generally a few shrimp or one Italian sausage or a couple of strips of bacon, or, if I think sufficiently ahead, a defrosted chicken breast half - and dinner for my spouse is pretty much guaranteed to be a hit.

5.  I spent a glorious day kayaking with my girlfriend. The harbor where we kayak is hugh- at least 16 miles around in it's entirety. We generally alternate which 6-8 mile section we are going to kayak, pulling out midway for lunch. Sometimes we bring packed lunches from home, but this time we walked up a short block to order and take a to-go lunch back to our kayaks to eat. So much fun. And such a gift to be able to enjoy so much beauty on a regular basis.

Friday Five - We Bought The Business Class Seats!

Friday Five - We Bought The Business Class Seats!

Now that my sister-in-law is fully settled and comfortable with her new lifestyle and routine in my mom's 55+ community, I returned to travel planning with a vengeance the past week. So much got accomplished!

1. I crossed all the 't's and dotted all the 'i's for our upcoming trip to Atlanta and Savannah, Georgia, which we are visiting before heading to see our daughter and her family in Tennessee. I booked all of our organized excursions, plotted out our timelines and walking routes, and made all our restaurant reservations. It does take hours to do all this, however, the benefit is that once we take off we can simply enjoy and follow the travel plan, no additional planning or thinking required.

I've done this often enough over the years that I have a very good sense of our interests and available energy. And I do build in downtime each day to simply sit and enjoy some liquid refreshments in between our activities. Which is also when some of our most pleasant and spontaneous conversations with locals occur.

2. I added on a week in Philadelphia as a start to our fall tour of the UK in order avoid having to book connecting flights. There are no direct flights from LAX to Edinburgh, Scotland, where our tour begins. In researching direct flights in and out of Edinburgh on the terrific and informative website, Flights From, I noted that Philadelphia was one of the airports listed. In that we've never been there, we decided to fly there first  before flying onward to Edinburgh. So, we'll fly direct to Philadelphia, spend a week visiting, then fly direct from there to Edinburgh. So much less stress this way!

3. I booked a gorgeous boutique hotel in Philadelphia, because location and luxury are increasingly priorities in our lives. In the grand scheme of things, it's a small upgrade that really enhances our city touring experience. As I've mentioned previously, while I don't necessarily want to travel more than we already do, I'm now at an age where I do want to travel nicer.

4. I booked Business Class seats for our long haul direct flight home from Dublin. I gulped, I admit, before hitting the BUY button, but only because it's a bigger number than I'm used to, not because we can't afford it. I don't expect to book Business Class for every flight going forward, but if the experience turns out to be as pleasant as I think it's going to be, I do see us selectively flying Business Class as we continue to age.

5. I started working on booking excursions for the Greenland leg of our Summer 2027 cruise, because people on the cruise forum I'm on said they were already starting to fill up. I want to learn about the area, and to walk and sight-see as much as possible while there, but I also want some unique experiences. So on one of our stops we'll be combining a town walking tour with some unique (and tiny!) samplings of the local proteins. As in reindeer, caribou, seal and whale. Click here for more Greenland traditional cuisine information.

Friday Five - Pad Thai Anyone?

Friday Five - Pad Thai Anyone?

1.  I made Pad Thai at home for the first time, and it was delicious! I thought it looked fun when I first spotted the recipe in the cookbook below, but when it came time to actually make it, I was a bit nervous. Nervous because it was a new-to-me cuisine, and I didn't know if the recipe would actually evoke the taste of the Pad Thai that I've enjoyed in restaurants over the years, including in the country of Thailand itself.

Plot spoiler: It did! And it turned out that it was quite easy to make. Sourcing the ingredients, on the other hand, primarily the rice noodles and the bamboo shoots, necessitated a trip to a specialty market, which then involved some hunting around. However, I now know where to find both items, so the next time I make it should be a snap.

We enjoyed it warm from the pan the first night, topped with fresh bamboo shoots, cilantro, fresh lime, and peanuts, and cold from the fridge the second night, topped with same. Both ways were delicious, and I'm not actually sure which I prefer!

2.  We are helping my sister-in-law (SIL) re-settle into my mother's 55+ community, and it has been a process. My SIL doesn't drive, nor use a smart phone, so we've had to sort of train her to get to the places she'll need, which has involved a lot of sitting in our car and watching this week to make sure all goes well on her walking routes. She did have a few missed turns in the beginning, but she now seems to have her routes down, and this should be the last weekend we'll need to stick to her so closely. We know she is doing the 100% absolute best she can, and this transition has been a tremendous one for her, but my spouse and I do miss our daily walks together (generally we've been taking turns), and will be happy to get back to them.

3.  Senior Centers are worth their weight in gold. My SIL now attends the senior center near her new home each day, Monday thru Friday, and it has made me realize the value these centers provide. She not only has lunch there, but also attends a variety of classes ranging from exercise to art to bingo to singing and dancing, and she is socializing and making new friends daily. It is providing the daily structure in her life, and she is increasingly excited each day to get there and visit with her steadily increasing group of friends. 

4.  I am thankful we were able to retire so young, and have 15 completely self-centered years. It's been a big change having both my mother and my husband's sister now so reliant on our help and guidance. I am deeply moved that we are able to do so at this phase of life, and that they are now both so close by, however I am also thankful that we had 15 years of Go-Go-Go when nobody needed us, not children nor parents, and we could live and be as hedonistic as we desired. We will absolutely continue to travel - we still have five upcoming trips just this year - but we'll no longer go away for months at a time. We'll contain our trips to 30 days or less, generally two or so weeks depending, and likely even shorter as time goes on and my mother and SIL continue thru the aging process.

5.  Summer energy is building here for sure! Our walks at the beach and at the harbor are increasingly filled with buzz - kids, families, parents, couples - and it makes me both happy and appreciative to live somewhere people make big efforts to come visit. Yesterday at the harbor, I laughed watching one of our Coast Guard boats shoot water at a group of excited children playing in the water. The positive energy that one action created was wonderful, and stayed with me throughout my walk. 

The Food Noise Is Finally Abating

The Food Noise Is Finally Abating

I had begun to think that the Food Noise would never abate. I was actually in the process of working to accept that my brain would likely never stop chattering at me about food. Not about hunger, about food. There is a difference.

I know what genuine hunger feels like - it's a real and physical sensation. The incessant chatter in my brain was not about hunger. Rather, it was about something else. It was, as I think I've finally figured out, about using food to distract myself from a myriad of emotions I apparently was not comfortable feeling. 

Because I recently read something that resonated - when my brain chatters at me about food, and I know I am not genuinely hungry, I can simply sit quietly for a few minutes and allow the emotions that I'm apparently using food to distract from to instead come thru.

And that has been life changing. If I can simply sit quietly and allow myself to feel whatever emotions are there in my brain, not only do the emotions themselves abate, so does the food noise.

Here is an article I read recently in Psychology Today that seems to explain this much more succinctly than I am able to:

Quieting The Food Noise 

I am so very relieved. To be able to simply read a book in peace, without a constant brain chatter occurring to get something, anything, to nibble, is a brand new and wonderful experience.

Difficult change can eventually happen it would appear. I find that so positive and reassuring - even at my current stage of life, it's never to late.

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An Ordinary Day In My Retirement Life

An Ordinary Day In My Retirement Life 

I decided to monitor my activities yesterday, because I was recently reminded that how we spend our days is how we spend our lives, and I wanted to see how I was doing, and how I felt about it in hindsight.

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Woke up at 5:40 AM, thrilled to have 'slept in' after a run of difficult sleep nights.

Downstairs to greet and hug spouse, enjoy coffee, read blogs and do NYT Strands puzzle until about 7:45 AM.

Ate breakfast (one breakfast date bar and half a cup of cottage cheese) while doing absolutely nothing, a practice I'm working on in order to be more fully present while eating, versus 'mindlessly' eating. 

Much enjoyed the truly delicious and healthy no-bake date bar, made from just four quality ingredients - raw oats, pecans, Medjool dates and coconut oil, plus a tad of salt. (Recipe below)

I buy fresh-in-season Medjool dates every January while we're in Palm Springs attending the International Film Festival, and then freeze them upon our return home for leisurely usage in these absolutely delicious breakfast or anytime-snack date bars:

Dare To Date Bars

5 Ingredient, No Bake, Vegan Date Squares

Crust:

• 1.5 cups pecans
• 1.5 cups regular oats (for Gluten-free, use GF oats)
• 1/2 tsp kosher salt
• 10 Medjool dates, pitted and roughly chopped
• 1/4 cup coconut oil

 

Date filling:

• 25 Medjool dates, pitted and roughly chopped (~2.5 cups)
• 1/2 cup water (Less or slightly more as needed)

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Directions:

1. In a food processor, process the pecans and oats until a fine crumble forms. Now add in the dates and process until crumbly again. Add the coconut oil and to the mixture and process until sticky. You can add a tiny bit of water if the dough is too dry. Remove from processor, set aside 3/4 cup of the mixture for later, and press the rest of the mixture very firmly and evenly into a 10" x 6" or equivalent ungreased pan.

2. Grab your pitted and roughly chopped dates and water and process in the food processor until a paste forms. You will have to stop and scrape down the sides of the bowl often. You can add a tiny bit more water if needed, but you want the paste quite thick. Scoop out the date mixture onto the crust and gently spread with the back of a wet spatula until even.

3. Sprinkle on the 3/4 cup of mixture you set aside and gently press down with fingers. Refrigerate in the fridge until firm for at least 1 hour, preferably overnight. Cut into 16 bars (approx 200 calories for each bar) and serve. Store in the fridge or freezer.

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Into my office until 8:30 AM in order to purchase season tickets to one of the local venues we enjoy attending. Much back and forth between my calendar and the various performance date options before I hit the BUY button.

Dressed for a five mile walk around the harbor, preceded by a quick trip to Trader Joes upon it's 9:00 AM opening in order to beat the weekend crowd. A brief return trip home to place food items in fridge, then back out for the short drive to harbor for my walk.

Back home by noon, whereupon I ate lunch  (while reading - I haven't applied my breakfast practice of doing nothing while eating to lunch just yet . . . baby steps 🙂 ) and then returned back to my office in order to finalize activity plans for our upcoming trip to both Atlanta and Savannah, Georgia. So far, it looks like we'll be enjoying multiple museum visits, a trolley car tour, a steamboat ride, a horse and carriage ride, and a golf cart tour through a historic cemetery, lol. Much looking forward to it all. 

Read for two hours (The German Girl by Armando Lucas Correa), then joined my spouse in the living room for Happy Hour, where we chatted about his day with his sister, helping her to get acclimated to her new surroundings in my mother's 55+ community. (She loves it and is doing great!)

Dinner here at home after two nights in a row of dining away - a BLT for spouse, plus spinach salad for us both.

Watched 60 Minutes on TV after dinner & cleanup, followed by one streaming episode of Murder She Wrote. Sundays are for comfy, not edgy, TV, around here!

In bed by 9:00 PM, where I played on my e-Puzzle app until falling asleep sometime before 10:00 PM.

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In hindsight, it was a day well spent, even if what I consider a rather ordinary day. I ate well, I exercised, I was productive, I enjoyed time reading, and I enjoyed time with my spouse.

Today, by contrast, I have to wait around at my mom's all afternoon in order for internet to be installed. I'm planning to get in a quick walk to the beach and back before departing, then finish off my Georgia trip planning on my phone at my mom's while I await the installer. Upon arrival back home, I'm making Pad Thai, my first time, for dinner. It sounded like fun when I first saw the recipe, but we'll see, now that I actually have to make it!

A Mini Blogging Break

Firstly, I'll be back! I was just recently overwhelmed with trip detail work.  😚

I spent several hours this morning planning out flights and hotel bookings for just one of five upcoming trips still in the works for 2026. It's not what I'd call fun, but it's done, and now I can focus on the small details of the trip, which I do actually enjoy doing.

Anyhow, I still have four more to finish planning out, and those trips on top of the many activities that keep us on the go when at home, has me feeling a bit to distracted to keep up my blog at this time.

So, I'll be temporarily stepping away, but will continue to visit and comment on the blogs of those folk in my Blog List to the right, rest assured!

Scenes From The Weekend

 Scenes From The Weekend

Scenes from our recent packed and fun weekend.

I love that there are so many things to do in the area where we live. We may run short of energy at times, but we never run short of fun or interesting things to do.

Even if, like yesterday afternoon, we simply walked around our harbor on a spectacular spring day, deciding very spur of the moment to stop and enjoy small glasses of hard seltzer and hard cider, because the brewery was right alongside our route.

This upcoming weekend will include a street fair, a dinner and wine tasting, a live theater production, and Happy Hour with friends.

I do a good amount of volunteering and household management chores during the week. The weekend is when we simply try to enjoy. Because life is short, and tomorrow is not necessarily guaranteed.

Words I try to live by in my increasingly-older life.

Friday Five - A Potpourri Of Highs And Lows

 Friday Five - A Potpourri Of Highs And Lows

The week was full of high and low points . . .

1.  My tooth is, hopefully, fixed. During a routine X-Rays & cleaning appointment, my dentist came in to inform me that I needed one of my fillings redone. Post-procedure, I returned home with an unusually tender mouth as compared to prior dental work I've had done. Some five weeks and multiple visits to the dentist later, I think all is finally well, although it involved more pain and discomfort along the way than I've previously experienced. Life lesson from a childhood spent eating and drinking mass amounts of sugar? Kids, take care of your teeth!

2.  Sailing Season has begun. This will be our first sailing season as newer club members, and we are excited to watch the weekly races and enjoy the socializing that takes place afterwards. I've taken sailing courses, but am very much still a novice. Thus, I will stick with inputting race results on land, to ensure I don't get in the way of the more seasoned sailors. I'm content to simply be part of the land team this year, viewing it as a learning opportunity for future sailing seasons.

3.  Our Social lives are continuing to expand. Speaking of being newer club members, the 2025 group of new members has coalesced into an active and fun social group. Our unofficial leader and his wife are fabulously energetic, and we are having monthly club get togethers to socialize and get to know each other better, which is helping the overall club familiarity to move along nicely. Soon to come is an event involving boat owners hosting new members as we hop from boat to boat in order to enjoy chatting and sipping and noshing. Should be lots of fun.

4.  I'm becoming a boutique clothing store shopper. Prior to losing 25 pounds, I primarily shopped at somewhat generic clothing stores. In giving it some thought, I think it was because I didn't want to draw any attention when trying on new clothes. But, now that I'm comfortable with my weight and shape for the first time in pretty much my entire life, I am falling fast for smaller boutique store shopping. 

Reasons why would include the ease in which employees take in my current size and find clothing they think would fit /look good on me.

I am loving this service! It helps me not become 'stuck' in my clothing styles, and exposes me to silhouettes I would not have thought to try on.

Like this cute knit tank dress with, yikes, horizontal stripes. Never would I have thought to try it on if not for the boutique store owner's encouragement.

Or this smocked-waist skirt. The wide waist band turned out to be slimming once I put it on, exactly the opposite of how I thought it would look.

5.  It's going to be a wild and fun weekend. So many great activities are on the schedule for the weekend, beginning tonight, that I can hardly wait. We are attending a big community anniversary event, a tribute concert, a dinner and wine tasting event, a symphony with a revered conductor, and joining friends for dinner. 

My normal Monday volunteering job just got cancelled, so that means I can happily throw myself into the weekend, and wait to recover until then. 😄

Weight Loss Maintenance At Six Months In

 Weight Loss Maintenance At Six Months In

I posted the following comment over at The Hawaii Plan this morning, and I thought, 'Gosh, I could turn this response into an entire blog post!' So, that's exactly what I decided to do.

Here is the comment, in response to a question about how readers were doing with their health and fitness goals:

I always have small 100 calories packets of plain almonds with me everywhere I go. They really are the perfect food for quick, clean energy, both mental and physical. I highly recommend.

I have kept my lost weight off for over six months now. It's simple but hard (!)- I weigh myself each and every morning, and continue to make a daily food plan. The food plan is the most important component for me. Once I walk thru my day, mentally, and plot out my daily allotment of food/calories, I'm highly likely to stick with it.

I'd like to say it gets a lot easier, but in my experience it does not. I just get to finally enjoy the rewards of being thin along with the ongoing need to self discipline.

Fit is easy- I walk miles and miles and love it. Turns out it was never the exercise that was an issue. It was the food.

I'm now approximately six months post reaching my goal weight of 108 pounds. Unfortunately, unlike breaking my sugar addiction, where the sugar cravings have pretty much disappeared, I still think about food a lot.  I'd thought, hoped, my general food cravings would dissipate, but they have not. They are still alive and well, and they are still an unpleasant chatter in my brain that generally begins in the late afternoon and continues on for several hours. Generally, by about 7 PM, I can shut them off and finish the remainder of my day in peace. 

My self discipline, pretty much finely honed with regard to food at this point, generally allows me to ignore the chatter and stay with my food plan for the day, but it is beyond annoying that I'm still having to fight food noise.

The difference between fighting the food noise now, in maintenance, vs fighting it while working to lose weight, is my rewards for ignoring the noise are immediate and numerous.

• I have a new wardrobe of smaller clothing that both fits and makes me feel great while wearing them. 
• I very much continue to enjoy iced black coffee as my pick-me-up treat.
• My social life is extremely robust, and the compliments from the folk I'm with at an event seem to flow effortlessly. Those unsought compliments are just as enjoyable to my psyche as a sugar-laden dessert used to be, but with no negative downsides. Meaning, ha, my clothes still fit the next morning!
• I like the way I look now in photographs, so no more agonizing over how to 'hide'.
• I no longer grab for my ubiquitous 'butt wrap', a staple of my pre-weight loss life. It's beyond a relief to no longer agonize over the parts of my body I disliked.
• Clothes shopping is now a joy, and the primary way I reward myself when in search/need of a mental pick-me-up.

Here is a sample of one day of my Food Plan, which I prepare each morning after viewing my Calendar for the day:

• 4/20 Daily Food
• Breakfast: 200 (Date bar)
• Snack: 100 (Almonds)
• Lunch: 270 (Trader Joe bean & rice burrito w/salsa)
• Snack: 150 (Greek yogurt, 1/2 cup berries)
• Dinner: 200 (Wine, deli cheese slice, 4 crackers, 1 cup baby carrots)
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• TOTAL: 920

I continue to review my stats in the Mayo Clinic online calorie calculator to ensure I'm in sync with what the results return for my age, gender and current weight, and yep, 920 calories, plus additional for whatever I've burned via exercise, comprises the entirety of my daily calorie allotment. At this point, food noise notwithstanding, I can say that I'm used to it and no longer fight it. So that is at least progress!

More Money Than Energy . . . A Retirement Shift

More Money Than Energy . . . A Retirement Shift

 

I was perusing our budget this morning, something I do on a regular basis in order to evaluate how each individual category is holding up, and what we might want to do next with the remaining allocations. 

In looking at the remaining fund buckets for several categories - Entertainment, Hobbies, and Travel primarily - it occurred to me that this may be the second year in a row we fall a bit short of utilizing all the allocated funds. Why? Because we simply don't have the intense desire to Go-Go-Go that defined the first dozen or so years of our retirement. We are increasingly happy in our coastal-close home, surrounded as we are by friendly neighbors, friendly people when we're out and about, friendly social clubs, picturesque walking routes, and flavorful places to pick up or sit down and enjoy small and not-so-small bites to eat. 

So is our somewhat diminished desire to pull down our suitcases a result of being genuinely satisfied in our current surroundings, a result of getting older and simply having a bit less energy, or perhaps some combination of the two?

I would like to think it's the former rather than the later. Regardless, I can say that I'm happier and more content than I've been in a few years. Our recent move, prompted by our realtor dangling offers to good to pass by on our former home, plus our desire to move away from an oddly unfriendly neighborhood, has ended up bringing some lovely new aspects into our retirement lives. Because we are now so darn close to the coast (an easy one mile downhill walk), we've joined some coastal-oriented organizations that have brought new friendships into our lives. And we are much enjoying the richness these new friendships are now providing. 

Perhaps I'm still under the glow of back-to-back social engagements yesterday, perhaps I'm simply excited about the fun evening we have scheduled for tonight, but whatever the reason, I woke up this morning feeling warm and fuzzy about our current life here and the years here still to come. And when my thoughts turned to travel, as I perused our 2026 remaining Travel budget funds, I realized I didn't want to travel to the degree that we used to, because doing so would cause us to miss out on a myriad of social events still to come this year.

What a change from prior retirement years, several of which involved traveling over six to eight months a year. (Any of you that might have followed my blog then can attest to the consistency of our Go-Go-Go! mentality and lifestyle.)

So I don't know if the change in my travel desire is a result of age, or simply due to growing location satisfaction.

Travel is our largest budget allocation, followed by Entertainment and Hobbies. We are already pretty occupied by our Hobbies during the week, and our Entertainment options over each weekend, and there is no conceivable way that we have enough residual energy to do more of either.

The only thing I'm currently feeling pulled toward is possibly a home even closer to the coast than we are now. It's not a strong enough feeling for me to feel compelled to take any action, but it's there. We'll see what happens to it in the months and years ahead.  

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Today's Healthy Focus Plan:  Walk seven miles along the beach, prep the house for my daughter and her partner's arrival, dress and depart for a dinner and tribute band event at one of our social clubs.

Monday Musings - So About My Closet . . .

 Monday Musings - So, About My Closet . . .

We had a lovely Easter, enjoying brunch with my mom and my spouse's sister, followed by a stroll along a lovely walking path that follows a stream through my mom's retirement community.

Otherwise, lots of fun April activities await, most of which involve a bit of dressing up, something I much enjoy. I have the biggest closet I've ever had in this house, and I love it an to an embarrassing degree. Funny story: a neighbor toured our home recently, and when we went into the bedroom dressing area, he expressed surprise that I had the entire walk in closet to myself (my spouse uses the adjacent reach-in closet). I was shocked, because not once had it ever occurred to me to share. I wasn't being selfish -  it had simply, genuinely never occurred to me that sharing was even an option! 😄

Though it may look like two identical mirrored wardrobe closets, they are not.
My spouse's on the right is a simple reach-in. Mine on the left is a big walk in.

Anyhow, before I get on to the fun things I'm looking forward to in April, here are some photos of my beloved closet. Another side story here - we have had beautiful closet systems put into all of our home closets except for mine. The reason?  I am so enamored of the way I was able to organize it out, I'm actually afraid of what a remodel might do to it! 

Two things here: 1) the hanging jewelry is all costume, so pretty much without any value (just saying!),
and 2) I have wire shelf dividers arriving today to better organize my purses
and I am so excited, lol!

I showed my closet to a neighbor recently, in order to get her opinion on the pros vs cons of redoing it, and her opinion went from "Of course you should remodel it to match the rest of the house!" before seeing my closet, to "Oh my gosh, leave it as is!" after viewing my organizational results.

Bit of a sidetrack there - sorry!

April events include a symphony, a play (The Birds by Alfred Hitchcock), a 70's tribute band event, an 80's tribute band event, a winery event, an anniversary celebration event (not ours), a concert, a visit from my older daughter and her partner, and getting my spouse's sister moved and settled into my mom's unit.

Because I love to organize so much, I'm actually looking forward to the move with my sister-in-law - so much organizing will be involved I can hardly wait!

I know, what can I say? Other than to admit that 1) yes, I do believe I have some OCD tendencies, and 2) Marie Kondo is one of my greatest personal hero's ever. 😄

 

Friday Five - We Doubled Our Money!

Friday Five - We Doubled Our Money!

It was an interesting week, medically speaking. All is well, but I'm acutely aware that I am in my 60's and my physical form is aging rapidly. We also had interactions with two sets of dear friends that are struggling through cancer, another heart wrenching reminder that we are all now on the downward side of that bell curve. 

Note to self:  Life is short. Live big. Love mightily.

1.  We had fun turning $100 into $200. We attended a recent event that included a $20 Wine Pull Booth. We bought five pulls, which resulted in the following, once we got home and looked up our pulls online:

    Bottle One- $15 retail

    Bottle Two- $20 retail

    Bottle Three- $45 retail

    Bottle Four- $52 retail

    Bottle Five- $65 retail

    

Retail total for the five pulls: $197, almost exactly twice what we paid. Plus, no sales tax, an additional $15 savings. 😃

2.  Restarting HRT turned out to a good, but somewhat costly decision. After consulting with my doctor, I went back on HRT in January of this year, because once fully off, my hot flashes returned roaringly. 

I was unaware that going off HRT and subsequently restarting it was not necessarily a simple matter for the aging body, and thus was just mildly concerned when some light spotting began to occur. 

However, a little research courtesy of Mr. Google quickly confirmed this was not normal, and that I should notify my doctor asap, which I did. Well, three appointments and two minor procedures later, all is well, even as the co-pays stacked up(!).  

I have about a year left until Medicare and I'm hoping the body hangs in there until then, because my current private insurance medical co-pay threshold is quite precipitous.

3.  We are meeting friends for a picnic at the Harbor tonight.  Enjoying picnic dinners at the harbor is a summer tradition that we get to enjoy in March this year, thanks to our very unusual, currently high temps. Hooray!

Picnics at the harbor are such a lovely and relaxing way to enjoy a beautiful evening. Parking in the area where we picnic is ample and free. The grass area where we generally set up is broad and never overcrowded. And the views are lovely - we sit at a slight elevation which allows us to enjoy the many large and small watercraft that go in and out of the harbor, plus ample marine animal life - sea lions, pelicans, cormorants, Great Blue and Night herons, Great White and Snowy egrets, and the occasional, but very regal, osprey.

 

4.  More music and reading in the evenings is now occurring. We were already light TV viewers, but in that we watched exactly zero TV during our recent three week cruise vacation, we decided to experiment and see if reducing from two shows per evening to just one show might result in higher quality evenings. Interestingly, the adjustment was very easy, and we are currently enjoying ending our at-home evenings with soft jazz and books. It's been a nice change.

5.  My happiest days are always when three things occur - lots of hours spent in motion outdoors, one flavor-filled meal, and some downtime spent reading. Additional time spent with family or friends is then the icing on the proverbial cake.

Tomorrow's plan is an 8 mile walk, a shared sandwich at our favorite local deli, then books and iced coffee while sitting outside on our patio. Based on these three things, I expect it to be a good day.

I hope you make it a good day, wherever you are!

Monday Musings - The Dress Fits!

 Monday Musings - The Dress Fits!

I haven't talked about my weight loss journey in a while, so I hope you'll forgive if I take today's blog post as an opportunity to do so, in that the public accountability goes a very long way in helping me stay the course.

We had a Hawaiian themed event to attend this weekend, on what initially was looking to be an 80+ degree day. In anticipation, I had set aside a shorter sun dress with Hawaiian flowers that I felt comfortable (i.e, thin) in.

But then the weather took a slight turn, and the highs for the event dropped into the high 60's/low 70's. Aaargh - what to do?

(And yes, these type of curveballs do throw me, because I use what I'll be wearing as an incentive to stay the course, calorie wise, in the days preceding.)

I went into my closet and started looking through my longer sun dresses, and came across one that I had purchased last year while we were in the Caribbean, but never worn, because what had seemed to fit just fine while on vacation, was actually a bit to tight to wear comfortably back home in my non-vacation life.

But, of course, that was 25 pounds ago. So, when I tried it back on over the weekend I was thrilled - it didn't feel tight any longer, and I happily accessorized and wore it to our event. And because I felt good/thin, I didn’t overeat as compensation. I stayed with my food plan for the event - water, protein, and vegetables.

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(I realize the above shoes are a bit too clunky for the dress,
however, I have an increasingly painful bunion on one foot,
and it has altered my shoe game considerably! 😄 )

The offset to being able to wear smaller clothes that I feel good in, and the somewhat unpleasant reality, is that I don't get to eat very much food. That is the honest and ongoing truth to how I lost and am now keeping the weight off - I only have a select number of calories I can eat on any given day, and when I reach the limit, I am done. Even if my brain doesn't always agree.

 

So, I'm increasingly particular (picky if you will) about what I'm willing to use those calories on. I want flavorful, high quality food vs low quality food, because I feel better overall when I eat higher quality food, and less hungry in between meals.

And that's it. I fought hard to lose the weight, and now that it's gone I plan to continue with the changed habits that got me here for the duration of my life. Because there has not been one single moment over the last year when I've looked back and wished I'd eaten something that I chose not to. Only the reverse. 

I have read the following Reddit thread many times since reaching my goal weight. It's full of thoughts and advice that I have found to be extremely helpful in changing my mental stance on eating: Cal Poly Study: Successful Weight Loss Habits. If any of you are on a similar journey, I hope you find it to be of some help as well.

Friday Five - Feel The Heat

 Friday Five - Feel The Heat

We are experiencing an unusual heat event here this past and upcoming week, so I've had to put my brain temporarily into summer mode.  So odd in the middle of March, but I'm trying to roll with it.

1.  We're needing to shift our walks to the morning. One of my great joys in retirement is not waking up to an alarm (even as I often wake up on my own before 6am, LOL). But this week, all my planned walks are happening several hours earlier than normal in order to beat the heat. Yes, even as close to the beach as we are, it's been extremely warm. Right at the shoreline is still comfortably cool, but every walking route we take eventually veers away and hits pavement, at which point temperatures rise. All to say I'm temporarily setting my alarm clock until this seasonally-unusual heat dome passes.  

2.  I caved and turned on the A/C last night. We rely on the strong afternoon coastal breeze to cool the house in warmer weather, but if/when that breeze dies out, such as currently, the house can definitely get stuffy. So, I broke and turned on the A/C last night, trying hard not to see dollar bills flying by overhead as it kicked on. Our already-high electrical fees here in California recently went up again, so I'm definitely not looking forward to our next bill!

3.  We're going to San Juan, Puerto Rico for our Christmas Holiday family vacation. Our daughters are so excited with the plan they came up with, which in turn makes my spouse and I very happy. We'll be staying in adjacent apartments in UNESCO-designated Old Town San Juan between Christmas and New Years, tagging along with whatever activities the girls and their families come up with. It should make for a wonderful end to 2026 and start to 2027 to be all together. I read a reference to gifting money in this manner as 'Giving with a warm hand'. Enjoy gifting now, in a manner that can be experienced and enjoyed while we are alive, rather than waiting till we're, well, not. 

4.  I'm almost on auto-pilot with regard to my daily eating plan, after losing 25 pounds last year. Even after a full year of working to modify my eating habits, first to effect weight loss, then to maintain it, there are still days that I struggle. One thing I do, that is proving to be very helpful, is to make up the day's eating plan each morning while I sip my coffee. I go through my day, identify any calorie splurges, such as tonight, when I'll be having a 150 calorie, 6 oz glass of wine at our Club, and schedule out my remaining daily calories. This allows me to pleasantly anticipate and look forward to various caloric events, while still maintaining control over the rest of my day.

5.  We finalized our Easter Sunday plans.  Not religious over here - the ocean is my church - but others in my family are, so I do work to honor their beliefs even if not sharing them. Thus, this year's Easter plans will begin on Holy Saturday with taking my mom and my husband's sister to dinner and sunset viewing at our Club. This will be followed by all but me attending services on Easter Sunday morning, during which I'll pick up a freshly baked quiche from a French bakery in town, and take it, along with champagne and an array of fresh fruit, to my mother's home, where we'll all meet up for Easter brunch. Afterward my mom wants to take us along the creek trail that runs near her home, which I'm very much looking forward to.