It's Good To Be Back To Our Coastal Life

 It's Good To Be Back To Our Coastal Life

Warning: This post is full of feel-good emotions. Please skip if you are not feeling up to a big dose of joyfulness!

And also, trust me, I have cr#p in my life just like everyone else, but I generally prefer to deal with it quietly, so as to resolve or move it along as quickly as possible.

We had a truly wonderful time on our recent visit to Atlanta and Savannah, Georgia, followed by a visit with our Tennessee-based daughter and her family. We enjoyed delicious food, saw wonderful things, and had interesting and lively conversations all along the way. Plus a lovely visit with Laura of, first, The Occasional Nomads, and now Make The Lemonade, and her charming husband, Brett.

But, it is also so very, very, very wonderful to be back in the midst of our coastal life here in California. We returned to absolutely beautiful weather, and have already walked close to 15 miles since returning home on Friday evening. We met up with friends for a Father's Day dinner at our harbor, and had a random encounter with one of the stars of Netflix's limited series, Selling The OC, at our favorite local brewery. Tyler Stanaland, in case you are wondering. I noticed him initially, because he is THAT HANDSOME! 😄

I did feel like I was living in a dream this past weekend, because I was hit anew with how much I love living near the ocean now that we are retired and no longer needing to commute. I'm increasingly loathe to leave what we and others refer to as our 'bubble', because we find people here to be significantly more relaxed and carefree then when we travel inland more than 5 or so miles. 

I am beyond thankful each and every day to live within walking distance of these views.

I spent my entire adult life wanting to live closer to the ocean, but commutes made it untenable until we retired. Now that we're here, I don't see us ever leaving. If we move again, it will be to get even closer than we are now (we're just a smidge over a mile away currently). We have absolutely no need to move, but as Laura and I discussed this past weekend while visiting together in Tennessee, we are restless spirits that enjoy change.

We are here for about two weeks, than we'll be off to an Alaskan cruise with our family. Once we return, we should be here for the remainder of the summer. Which will not be a hardship!

And I maintained my weight during our recent trip in spite of enjoying wonderful bites every place we stayed. The offset to the food were the miles and miles we walked, close to 40 altogether.

One of the recent outfits for summer I purchased for both our recent trip, and here at home.

I can highly recommend this summer's lightweight, looser fitting pants - so pretty and comfortable!

I have a long list of chores to get done today, though my husband and I will be making time to enjoy a short coastal bluff stroll this afternoon once the running around and chores are done.

I wish you all a wonderful day wherever you are!

Friday Five - No One Is Driving That Car!

 Friday Five - No One Is Driving That Car!

We left temps in the low 70's, and landed smack in the middle of the humid high-80's over here in Georgia. But we're having a great time!

1.  We have walked and walked in Atlanta, and life is good. We've been averaging six miles a day, which is enough miles to feel great, offset our once a day meal splurge, and ensure we sleep like logs. 

2.  We're enjoying all the wonderful food things.  So far we've sampled fried green tomatoes, fried chicken, mashed potatoes, turnip greens, cornbread, biscuits, and peach cobbler (my spouse). We've shared most meals, my preferred way to dine when traveling in that we can't take leftovers home. And while I want to enjoy delicious food for my main meal, I don't want an overwhelming amount. It's worked out well, and our servers have generally been suggesting it in advance of our asking, or been quickly supportive when we inquire. Which has been lovely.

3. We've enjoyed chatting with our servers. We so enjoy viewing snippets of what life where we are visiting is like, and our restaurant servers often provide a terrific mirror with which to do so. Because we tend to eat quite early, restaurants are usually quiet when we arrive, and our servers have had time to briefly chat. I love to hear what brought them to an area, and how they are enjoying it. We experience delightful, quick little conversations so often as a result.

And we get in-return thoughts, often stereotypical, about our home state of California as well, which I actually appreciate. Yesterday, as an example, we were chatting with our server about the rise in popularity of mock-tails among young people, and the affect that was having on the bar and restaurant business. She said that something called 'Cali-sober' was increasingly a thing among her peer group. When we looked at her quizically, she said, 'You know, no alcohol, just that other 'thing' instead". It took a moment, and then we all broke into laughter.  

That is what I love most about travel - the little slice of life moments we get to experience.

4. We're seeing all the tourist stuff, and I'm 100% OK with that.  Because that's exactly what we are! Self-mocking aside, our preference to walk everywhere does tend to put us along side local residents, and that is when we are prone to get a glimpse of what life for locals is like in whatever area we're visiting. But I'm equally OK with being a tourist, because the big stuff is what generally brings us to an area in the first place.

The city of Atlanta as reflected in the lake at Piedmont Park.

Our visit to The World Of Coca Cola was a whole lot of fun.

Our spontaneous visit to the Federal Reserve Bank of Atlanta Museum, located just across the street from our hotel, was not only free to enter, but so, so interesting.  

And where we picked up the best souvenirs of our trip - small packets of shredded currency, also free! We picked up one packet for each of our granddaughters.

The home of Martin Luther King, Jr, was unfortunately closed for repairs during our trip. We did, however get to visit the MLK National Historic Park, where Dr King and his wife, Coretta Scott King, are laid to rest.

5. We have enjoyed seeing all the Waymo self driving vehicles and the self propelling delivery rolling carts that are all over this city. Because we live in the 'burbs, these techno self-driving cars and carts haven't made it our way yet. So, it was lots of fun to see so many of them out and about every day as we walked around the city.

There is no driver in that car if you look closely!

Some of the self propelling delivery carts even have names. So cute!

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So much already seen and visited, and we still have Savannah and Nashville to go!

Friday Five - Summer Is Here!

 Friday Five - Summer Is Here!

1. I took my mom clothes shopping and we ended up 'twin-ing' each other. I think about 50% of our purchases were identical, primarily the multiple pair of flowing, lightweight summer pants we both purchased. I don't really mind, as long as we don't wear the same outfit to the same event - that would definitely be a bridge to far! 😄

I bought this entire outfit, but there is no waist gap in mine!
My stomach may be flat, but it is no longer a 20 or even a 30 year old stomach, and absolutely no one needs to see it!

This ensemble is so pretty and comfortable.
And it will be perfect for our upcoming trip to already-hot-and-humid Georgia.

2. I spent several days in a row in one of our local beach towns, noshing, sipping, people watching and enjoying glorious weather. I had a slew of activities over the course of the week in one of our adjacent beach towns, that included several lunch and coffee dates. And our currently spectacular weather made each one especially enjoyable. We have not yet been socked-in with our seasonal grey - the grey has been clearing each day before lunch. So, clear blue skies combined with temps in the low to mid 70's has made for some days that seem designed for enjoying life while sitting outside in the sunshine.

3. I love that live events are such a big part of our lifestyle now. We attended four live events this past week - a jazz concert, a Broadway musicals tribute, a play, and a summer outdoor concert. Not only do we enjoy the shows, the energy, and our fellow attendees, my spouse and I also enjoy great follow-up discussions, generally over a post-event dinner. 

We prefer matinee performances whenever possible for just this reason. It’s so nice to move on to a leisurely meal without the pressure to be sure and finish up and pay before our event begins.

4.  I made an improvised pasta dinner one night, and it turned out fabulous. I cubed and sauteed one large chicken breast half in some olive oil, after first seasoning with some kosher salt and fresh ground peppercorns. I set the finished chicken aside and next sauteed a basket of sliced mushrooms and half a diced red onion. I re-added the chicken, plus some artichoke hearts, and tossed with some pesto from my freezer and a bit of heavy cream that was leftover from a recent party. I served it over some penne pasta and topped with a sprinkling of freshly grated Parmesan cheese. My husband took one bite and said he loved it, and would I please tell him there was more? 

A list of items always in my fridge or pantry for these type of impromptu dinners:

• Artichoke hearts
• Sundried tomatoes
• Kalamata olives
• Capers
• Fresh Parmesan cheese
• Pasta (all sorts)
• Good quality olive oil
• Kosher salt
• Black peppercorns

Any combination of the above, tossed with whatever vegetables need to be used up, plus a bit of protein from the freezer - generally a few shrimp or one Italian sausage or a couple of strips of bacon, or, if I think sufficiently ahead, a defrosted chicken breast half - and dinner for my spouse is pretty much guaranteed to be a hit.

5.  I spent a glorious day kayaking with my girlfriend. The harbor where we kayak is hugh- at least 16 miles around in it's entirety. We generally alternate which 6-8 mile section we are going to kayak, pulling out midway for lunch. Sometimes we bring packed lunches from home, but this time we walked up a short block to order and take a to-go lunch back to our kayaks to eat. So much fun. And such a gift to be able to enjoy so much beauty on a regular basis.

Friday Five - We Bought The Business Class Seats!

Friday Five - We Bought The Business Class Seats!

Now that my sister-in-law is fully settled and comfortable with her new lifestyle and routine in my mom's 55+ community, I returned to travel planning with a vengeance the past week. So much got accomplished!

1. I crossed all the 't's and dotted all the 'i's for our upcoming trip to Atlanta and Savannah, Georgia, which we are visiting before heading to see our daughter and her family in Tennessee. I booked all of our organized excursions, plotted out our timelines and walking routes, and made all our restaurant reservations. It does take hours to do all this, however, the benefit is that once we take off we can simply enjoy and follow the travel plan, no additional planning or thinking required.

I've done this often enough over the years that I have a very good sense of our interests and available energy. And I do build in downtime each day to simply sit and enjoy some liquid refreshments in between our activities. Which is also when some of our most pleasant and spontaneous conversations with locals occur.

2. I added on a week in Philadelphia as a start to our fall tour of the UK in order avoid having to book connecting flights. There are no direct flights from LAX to Edinburgh, Scotland, where our tour begins. In researching direct flights in and out of Edinburgh on the terrific and informative website, Flights From, I noted that Philadelphia was one of the airports listed. In that we've never been there, we decided to fly there first  before flying onward to Edinburgh. So, we'll fly direct to Philadelphia, spend a week visiting, then fly direct from there to Edinburgh. So much less stress this way!

3. I booked a gorgeous boutique hotel in Philadelphia, because location and luxury are increasingly priorities in our lives. In the grand scheme of things, it's a small upgrade that really enhances our city touring experience. As I've mentioned previously, while I don't necessarily want to travel more than we already do, I'm now at an age where I do want to travel nicer.

4. I booked Business Class seats for our long haul direct flight home from Dublin. I gulped, I admit, before hitting the BUY button, but only because it's a bigger number than I'm used to, not because we can't afford it. I don't expect to book Business Class for every flight going forward, but if the experience turns out to be as pleasant as I think it's going to be, I do see us selectively flying Business Class as we continue to age.

5. I started working on booking excursions for the Greenland leg of our Summer 2027 cruise, because people on the cruise forum I'm on said they were already starting to fill up. I want to learn about the area, and to walk and sight-see as much as possible while there, but I also want some unique experiences. So on one of our stops we'll be combining a town walking tour with some unique (and tiny!) samplings of the local proteins. As in reindeer, caribou, seal and whale. Click here for more Greenland traditional cuisine information.

Friday Five - Pad Thai Anyone?

Friday Five - Pad Thai Anyone?

1.  I made Pad Thai at home for the first time, and it was delicious! I thought it looked fun when I first spotted the recipe in the cookbook below, but when it came time to actually make it, I was a bit nervous. Nervous because it was a new-to-me cuisine, and I didn't know if the recipe would actually evoke the taste of the Pad Thai that I've enjoyed in restaurants over the years, including in the country of Thailand itself.

Plot spoiler: It did! And it turned out that it was quite easy to make. Sourcing the ingredients, on the other hand, primarily the rice noodles and the bamboo shoots, necessitated a trip to a specialty market, which then involved some hunting around. However, I now know where to find both items, so the next time I make it should be a snap.

We enjoyed it warm from the pan the first night, topped with fresh bamboo shoots, cilantro, fresh lime, and peanuts, and cold from the fridge the second night, topped with same. Both ways were delicious, and I'm not actually sure which I prefer!

2.  We are helping my sister-in-law (SIL) re-settle into my mother's 55+ community, and it has been a process. My SIL doesn't drive, nor use a smart phone, so we've had to sort of train her to get to the places she'll need, which has involved a lot of sitting in our car and watching this week to make sure all goes well on her walking routes. She did have a few missed turns in the beginning, but she now seems to have her routes down, and this should be the last weekend we'll need to stick to her so closely. We know she is doing the 100% absolute best she can, and this transition has been a tremendous one for her, but my spouse and I do miss our daily walks together (generally we've been taking turns), and will be happy to get back to them.

3.  Senior Centers are worth their weight in gold. My SIL now attends the senior center near her new home each day, Monday thru Friday, and it has made me realize the value these centers provide. She not only has lunch there, but also attends a variety of classes ranging from exercise to art to bingo to singing and dancing, and she is socializing and making new friends daily. It is providing the daily structure in her life, and she is increasingly excited each day to get there and visit with her steadily increasing group of friends. 

4.  I am thankful we were able to retire so young, and have 15 completely self-centered years. It's been a big change having both my mother and my husband's sister now so reliant on our help and guidance. I am deeply moved that we are able to do so at this phase of life, and that they are now both so close by, however I am also thankful that we had 15 years of Go-Go-Go when nobody needed us, not children nor parents, and we could live and be as hedonistic as we desired. We will absolutely continue to travel - we still have five upcoming trips just this year - but we'll no longer go away for months at a time. We'll contain our trips to 30 days or less, generally two or so weeks depending, and likely even shorter as time goes on and my mother and SIL continue thru the aging process.

5.  Summer energy is building here for sure! Our walks at the beach and at the harbor are increasingly filled with buzz - kids, families, parents, couples - and it makes me both happy and appreciative to live somewhere people make big efforts to come visit. Yesterday at the harbor, I laughed watching one of our Coast Guard boats shoot water at a group of excited children playing in the water. The positive energy that one action created was wonderful, and stayed with me throughout my walk. 

The Food Noise Is Finally Abating

The Food Noise Is Finally Abating

I had begun to think that the Food Noise would never abate. I was actually in the process of working to accept that my brain would likely never stop chattering at me about food. Not about hunger, about food. There is a difference.

I know what genuine hunger feels like - it's a real and physical sensation. The incessant chatter in my brain was not about hunger. Rather, it was about something else. It was, as I think I've finally figured out, about using food to distract myself from a myriad of emotions I apparently was not comfortable feeling. 

Because I recently read something that resonated - when my brain chatters at me about food, and I know I am not genuinely hungry, I can simply sit quietly for a few minutes and allow the emotions that I'm apparently using food to distract from to instead come thru.

And that has been life changing. If I can simply sit quietly and allow myself to feel whatever emotions are there in my brain, not only do the emotions themselves abate, so does the food noise.

Here is an article I read recently in Psychology Today that seems to explain this much more succinctly than I am able to:

Quieting The Food Noise 

I am so very relieved. To be able to simply read a book in peace, without a constant brain chatter occurring to get something, anything, to nibble, is a brand new and wonderful experience.

Difficult change can eventually happen it would appear. I find that so positive and reassuring - even at my current stage of life, it's never to late.

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An Ordinary Day In My Retirement Life

An Ordinary Day In My Retirement Life 

I decided to monitor my activities yesterday, because I was recently reminded that how we spend our days is how we spend our lives, and I wanted to see how I was doing, and how I felt about it in hindsight.

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Woke up at 5:40 AM, thrilled to have 'slept in' after a run of difficult sleep nights.

Downstairs to greet and hug spouse, enjoy coffee, read blogs and do NYT Strands puzzle until about 7:45 AM.

Ate breakfast (one breakfast date bar and half a cup of cottage cheese) while doing absolutely nothing, a practice I'm working on in order to be more fully present while eating, versus 'mindlessly' eating. 

Much enjoyed the truly delicious and healthy no-bake date bar, made from just four quality ingredients - raw oats, pecans, Medjool dates and coconut oil, plus a tad of salt. (Recipe below)

I buy fresh-in-season Medjool dates every January while we're in Palm Springs attending the International Film Festival, and then freeze them upon our return home for leisurely usage in these absolutely delicious breakfast or anytime-snack date bars:

Dare To Date Bars

5 Ingredient, No Bake, Vegan Date Squares

Crust:

• 1.5 cups pecans
• 1.5 cups regular oats (for Gluten-free, use GF oats)
• 1/2 tsp kosher salt
• 10 Medjool dates, pitted and roughly chopped
• 1/4 cup coconut oil

 

Date filling:

• 25 Medjool dates, pitted and roughly chopped (~2.5 cups)
• 1/2 cup water (Less or slightly more as needed)

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Directions:

1. In a food processor, process the pecans and oats until a fine crumble forms. Now add in the dates and process until crumbly again. Add the coconut oil and to the mixture and process until sticky. You can add a tiny bit of water if the dough is too dry. Remove from processor, set aside 3/4 cup of the mixture for later, and press the rest of the mixture very firmly and evenly into a 10" x 6" or equivalent ungreased pan.

2. Grab your pitted and roughly chopped dates and water and process in the food processor until a paste forms. You will have to stop and scrape down the sides of the bowl often. You can add a tiny bit more water if needed, but you want the paste quite thick. Scoop out the date mixture onto the crust and gently spread with the back of a wet spatula until even.

3. Sprinkle on the 3/4 cup of mixture you set aside and gently press down with fingers. Refrigerate in the fridge until firm for at least 1 hour, preferably overnight. Cut into 16 bars (approx 200 calories for each bar) and serve. Store in the fridge or freezer.

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Into my office until 8:30 AM in order to purchase season tickets to one of the local venues we enjoy attending. Much back and forth between my calendar and the various performance date options before I hit the BUY button.

Dressed for a five mile walk around the harbor, preceded by a quick trip to Trader Joes upon it's 9:00 AM opening in order to beat the weekend crowd. A brief return trip home to place food items in fridge, then back out for the short drive to harbor for my walk.

Back home by noon, whereupon I ate lunch  (while reading - I haven't applied my breakfast practice of doing nothing while eating to lunch just yet . . . baby steps 🙂 ) and then returned back to my office in order to finalize activity plans for our upcoming trip to both Atlanta and Savannah, Georgia. So far, it looks like we'll be enjoying multiple museum visits, a trolley car tour, a steamboat ride, a horse and carriage ride, and a golf cart tour through a historic cemetery, lol. Much looking forward to it all. 

Read for two hours (The German Girl by Armando Lucas Correa), then joined my spouse in the living room for Happy Hour, where we chatted about his day with his sister, helping her to get acclimated to her new surroundings in my mother's 55+ community. (She loves it and is doing great!)

Dinner here at home after two nights in a row of dining away - a BLT for spouse, plus spinach salad for us both.

Watched 60 Minutes on TV after dinner & cleanup, followed by one streaming episode of Murder She Wrote. Sundays are for comfy, not edgy, TV, around here!

In bed by 9:00 PM, where I played on my e-Puzzle app until falling asleep sometime before 10:00 PM.

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In hindsight, it was a day well spent, even if what I consider a rather ordinary day. I ate well, I exercised, I was productive, I enjoyed time reading, and I enjoyed time with my spouse.

Today, by contrast, I have to wait around at my mom's all afternoon in order for internet to be installed. I'm planning to get in a quick walk to the beach and back before departing, then finish off my Georgia trip planning on my phone at my mom's while I await the installer. Upon arrival back home, I'm making Pad Thai, my first time, for dinner. It sounded like fun when I first saw the recipe, but we'll see, now that I actually have to make it!