The topic at last night's Chalice Circle pertained to bucket lists. We were asked to make one ahead of time, and bring it with us prepared to discuss. Going in, this is what mine looked like:
- Visit all 59 National Parks.
- 'Live' in a variety of cities around the world via one month apartment rentals. On that list would be the USA cities of Portland, Seattle, Chicago, Boston, and NYC, plus the foreign cities of Paris, Amsterdam, Madrid, Berlin, London, Auckland, and Sydney,
- Live within walking distance to the Pacific Ocean, preferably in either San Diego or Orange County here in California.
When we got to the meeting, we were presented with a list of questions related to our bucket lists. These are the questions, along with my answers:
- What kinds of emotions came up for you in creating your list? Excitement! Every. Single. One.
- Looking at your complete list, do any of the items point to some underlying unmet needs? Does your list in some way reflect some larger or broader longing within, perhaps a particular aspect of your individual spirituality or orientation to life? Hmm, good question! I have a great longing to visit places that awaken something in me, either because they are new, or wild, or different from my norm at home. I've often said that I must have been either a dog or an explorer in a former life, because I have a very difficult time remaining in one place for too long. So, attempting to better understanding why I have such a longing to roam would probably be a worthwhile exercise. (Input here welcomed!)
- If a stranger found your list somewhere and read it, how would the stranger describe who you are in terms of your beliefs, values, and priorities? Would that be consistent with how you would like people to remember you after you have died? That I was adventurous, restless, a seeker, and a lover of wilderness. And yes, that would be consistent with how I would like to be remembered, other than that I also adored, adored, adored my spouse, children and grandchild. And, in truth, they are the obstacles standing in the way of my completing the above bucket list - the trade offs in time spent with them all are simply too great at this time.
- If it were possible to find out what the exact day and time of your death would be, would you want to know? I would absolutely NOT want to know this. It would taint my entire life and rob me of the ability to simply enjoy the time I do have. Increasingly as I get older I find that ignorance is bliss, even while understanding that many things cannot remain hidden if we wish to progress as humans.
Plans and Goals for Today
Prep the house for company arriving tonight.
- Bake muffins and cookies for my carb-loving company
Attend the funeral of a dear friend's mother. She lived good and long, and left an amazing legacy of family and friends, so I expect this to be a quietly celebratory event of a well-lived life.
Oversee completion of our backyard project - hooray!